There is an undeniable feeling of joy when our favorite songs start to play. A smile spreads across my face, sing every lyric and bop my body around in my kitchen. In my glory, I don’t realize that my music has abruptly stopped. Goodbye. Adios. Sayonara.
No longer am I blasting The Replacements, but the techno pulse of Nicki Minaj fills my ears. As usual, my friends have taken over my Spotify and my jam fest is cut short. I wouldn’t really mind: my friends are hysterical and play old Backstreet Boys, but no one even asked me if they could change the song. I wasn’t going to complain because I wanted them to have a great time at my house. But then it dawned on me that I don’t even know how to confront my friends about changing my music at all.
Being a musical freak, what bothers me here goes beyond my inane obsession with rock bands. This problem is something I witness throughout my entire day, whether it be people talking over other students in class or the constant complaining about trivial issues. Sometimes it feels like everywhere I turn, there is a hint of selfishness, almost like a survival instinct that has kicked into high gear.
I don’t know exactly what is to blame here, but a lethal combination of lightning fast iPhones and the ability to express our every emotion through social media probably plays a role. This generation seems so obsessed with our own image, that I think we sometimes forget about each other.
The art of quality and constructive face-to-face communication seems to have been lost in the mix and many teens no longer seem know how to insinuate healthy two-sided conversation or how to stay positive about the ideas that seem to stress them out. I mean, I can’t even ask some of my best friends to change my music back because I’m too afraid they’ll get mad at me or think I’m weird. I forget that they have their own musical tastes and I should respect them. I should just be having fun with them as they rap battle.
I believe we all just need a lesson. A class on how to properly talk about and address our problems in a way where everyone benefits from the discussion. We need to strip away the idea that the issues we face affect just us alone.
I would love to see the negative attitudes and the never-ending scrolling on our phones stripped away and try to create better environments that students will love to be apart of. I want these things so we can create a new generation of communicators that will want to talk openly, express their ideas and rock on, of course.
Nora Turner is a senior at Bunnell High School, Stratford.